Saturday, June 8, 2013

Understanding the Sexual Double Standard

Apparently most women don't have orgasms from intercourse.  About 70% of women that is.  So why do women make so much noise during sex if they're not even enjoying it?

According to CNN, 66% of women make noise to accelerate their partner's climax, in other words to get it over with! 87% stated that they they moan to boost their partner's self-esteem.  "Women also reported making noise to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain/discomfort during sex."

How sad is that?

No wonder people can't fathom that a woman would have sex for free, without getting something in addition or in return, such as love or money.  No wonder sluts seem foolish.  No wonder if normal women did that they would feel used.  No wonder women just settle for vibrators.  If we are to believe the stats, then this is truly a pathetic state of affairs. 

Meanwhile, men are capable of enjoying both sex AND love, according to another CNN article:

"Despite stereotypes to the contrary, the male brain can fall in love just as hard and fast as the female brain, and maybe more so."  Lucky ducks.

No one seems to notice that men are entitled to both of these elements.  If men were upbraided for falling in love, then the double standard would be fair.  Instead, over the course of their lives, men have their cake and eat it later, or in many cases, they have their cake and eat it too. 

Slut shaming may stem from jealousy.  According to Dr. Drew it is women not men who bully sexual women.  They may feel threatened, afraid of what they don't understand, or resentful.  Also sluts threaten the sexual cartel.  They are the reason why men don't have to rush in to relationships, in other words, why they don't have to be controlled by women and can marry when they're good and ready.  Slut shaming is about controlling people through compulsory monogamy.  But it too has its roots in biology!

What's the solution to these problems?   Dr. Drew says biology is not destiny and that women can learn to overcome.  "Double standards will go away once women overcome the impulse to judge their female peers, Dr. Drew said."  As for the sexual dysfunction of the normals as mentioned initially, communication is a key component to avoiding losing interest.  I would add that solo sex (I'm such a geek) is a way to find out what you like and what you want to discard to maintain interest.

"According to Dr. Drew, 60 percent of women can only orgasm from oral sex, 5 to 10 percent can orgasm multiple times during intercourse, but not oral sex and 30 to 40 percent orgasm from a mix of intercourse and oral sex."

Now that's more like it.


1 comment:

  1. You should also mention that vaginal orgasm only works on 20-30% of women, according to the studies on the subject. We don't have a hard figure, but that seems to be the range we're looking at.